NO ONE GETS A VOTE ON WHAT WE EAT. SAME GOES FOR US.
/Weight Loss Fluctuations (8.18.2025 to 8.24.2025)
I don't know. I just don't know. What is it about food that makes some people feel they have leave to comment or question what other people choose to eat, or to decline to eat? Granted, opinions are a penny a pound on nearly every topic available. It would be challenging to think of any action or option that a person can choose that is immune from the prying eyes—or contrary point of view—of someone else.
Go ahead and try to think of any aspect of our lives that is judgment-proof. Go on. I'll give you a minute. … It's impossible, right? Whether we decide that orange and purple in large floral patterns are the right look for our business attire, that there's nothing more adorable than dozens of various sized garden gnomes balanced on a series of reflecting balls in our front garden, or if our choice of mate is clearly a disaster waiting to happen, most people hold their opinion-heavy fire, as they should. But when we decide to pass on the bread basket and no longer eat dessert, or when we lose weight by laying off carbohydrates, otherwise polite acquaintances look at us like we have monkeys on our faces or implore us to keep a portable defibrillator with us at all times.
Granted, voicing concerns about our health can come from a place of genuine concern on the part of family and friends. We can take the comments and questions in the spirit in which (we hope) they are intended. But even then, don't we wonder why someone might feel it's allowable to be a buttinsky that we're eating mainly nice sources of animal protein and the attendant fat that comes with, but there was nary a peep when we followed up our fourth slice of pizza with a slice of Death by Chocolate cake?
To be clear, neither plate of food should be a topic of conversation when it's our plate and we're not foisting our choices on anyone else. And yet, there we are. It can seem like some people think we've published a poll on what we're doing wrong with our meals. But unless we have indeed opened our nutrition choices to an all-participant public discussion, no one gets a vote on what we eat.
Period.
This stance of 'get your eyes off my plate' goes both ways, though. We may think that laying off the carbs has helped us beyond what we thought possible, and that we feel healthier and in control of our eating for the first time in years—or ever. However, sharing our enthusiasm with anyone in an unsolicited state is a no-no. It's a don't-don't. It's a "keep your yap shut unless you're asked by someone what they can do to achieve your results.' We don't get a vote on what other people eat. It takes practice for both us staying resilient in the face of uninvited, possibly unwanted comments on our declining of fruit or the blasphemy of enjoying a southern breakfast, "hold the biscuits," as well as remaining respectful—and silent—as we see someone who we know would feel better and be healthier if they would try the ketogenic diet taking on vast quantities of the foods that had gotten us fat and sick in the past. But we don't get a vote.
Period.
Howzabout we all mind our own beeswax about the lives of those around us. Unless their behavior directly impacts our health and safety, peaceful enjoyment of our day, or what have you, shut your cake hole. Or bacon hole. you know what I mean. We all must come to decisions about what we eat and how those decisions impact us on our own. There are so many aspects of our lives over which we have zero control. What we put in our gobs is almost the only thing over which we do have control. Let’s exercise that control, no matter what others say. And let’s allow the same for those near and dear to us.
That will free us up to rethink th garden gnomes.
As ever, if I can do this, you can do this. I promise.
Disclaimer: I’m not a medical doctor, researcher, or Ph.D., but instead, I’ve been fortunate to have had the time and resources to research the ketogenic diet, also known as LCHF (low carb/high fat). The information I share is based solely on my understanding of that research. We are all responsible for our own choices, including what we put in our mouths, and there’s no substitute for each of us checking things out ourselves. And I’m not a medical professional in any way. Go Keto With Casey is not a medical site. “Duh,” you might say. But best to make it clear to all. I welcome questions, comments, and even civil criticism. I’m still learning. So, if you have something to add, go for it. Links in this post and all others may direct you to affiliate links, where I will receive a small amount of the purchase price of any items you buy through those links. Thanks!
